Adult Multiples

Growing up as a twin, triplet or higher order multiple can be a special, rewarding, and unique journey. There are likely many experiences you share that are unlike those of singleton siblings. You have probably also faced some interesting challenges along the way.

While reading each other’s stories can be exceedingly eye-opening and informative, a welcome alternative is photo sharing. Photo sharing is a great way to connect with other adult multiples.

Take a look at our collection of photographs featuring adult multiples.




The death of my identical twin sister

Hello, My name is Marsha Sherly, identical twin to Marilyn Sharon, who killed herself two years ago. I am 57 now. We had a triplet-like sister born a year after us. We were all born in the month of August. That sister killed herself when she was 27. Our parents did not want to have triplets, or kids for that matter.

I would love to meet triplets or twins or twinless or tripletless people. I never met a triplet in my life and really do want to.

I live by the beach in California and love to paint pictures of twins and triplets. I deal with the death of my twin through painting. I paint for a chiropractor and he gives me my treatment for free. Marilyn and I were (each) born with serious back problems.

I am very friendly and would love to meet you. I belong to the twinless twin club. I met a twinless twin named Monica and talk to her every day.

Thanks for listening. I am suffering a lot without my twin. We did everything the same for 55 years. I feel brain dead without her.

Marsha Harris

Twin loss story

Was just messing around on my computer and found your site. I am a 51 yr. old male who lost my identical twin brother due to a car wreck 30 yrs. ago. The years that followed the loss were hell.

I turned to alcohol and drugs. I did not grieve, but tried to prove that I could be both of us. I caved in! 17 yrs after Joe’s death I knew I couldn’t go on. I joined A.A.and have been sober for 12 years using the 12 steps and meeting other twins in the program who had gone through the exact same experiences.

I have allowed myself to go through the grieving process, and turn the whole experience into helping others. I now have a wonderful full life. It took some time, growth, and a lot of understanding friends. Hope my story of loss can be of help to someone.

Thanks, Gene Gallagher

My father is a fraternal twin as well

My father is a fraternal twin as well, and as the frustration of always being one of the twins really began to hit us, he told us to get used to it. At the age of 50 people still remembered him and his twin brother the same way. But they had three older brothers, and at least in that respect there wasn’t constant comparison between the two of them. The constant comparison from our friends, our teachers, and even our family was probably the biggest hurdle we faced while going through our teen years.

Teenage years are truly a time for children to find what will be their idenitities as adults. With us it was no different. We started acquiring new hobbies and interests, and specifically, different strengths and weaknesses. But despite that, in school, we often had somewhat of a rough time. We were both very good students who took all honors classes in high school, and for that we were always compared. Even our parents subconsciously compared us. They recognized our different talents and abilities, but academically they considered us to be equals.

When we reached our junior year in high school, class rank and SAT scores became a big issue. Though we look different and behave differently, it was expected that we should think and calculate and write the same. Our father as a twin understood our frustration firsthand but still he used the “twin card” when one of us did very poorly on a test that the other had done well on. It was almost as though if one of us did well, the test had to be easy, but if both of us did not do well the test must have been difficult. We felt like shouting back at them sometimes, “Hey, we’re different people, and our brains are different too!”

Consequently, we didn’t want to go to the same college because we wanted our own separate identities, and our own separate experiences. Our 19th birthday, which is approaching, will be the first birthday in our lives that we will be celebrating apart. She chose to go to school in Texas while I decided to go to Tulane University in New Orleans. Because of Hurricane Katrina, my whole college experience so far has been a unique one, and very different from hers.

We are much better friends now than we ever were, because instead of growing up together, the societal misconceptions about twins made us almost into competitors in every respect. As a teen twin, I strongly advise parents to consider our story when their twins or multiples begin their teen years, and all the joys and sorrows associated with them.

Sincerely, AJ Jambhekar